Resources for Grief
Coryell, Deborah Morris (2007) Good Grief, Healing Through the Shadow of Loss
Doka, Kenneth J. (2002) Disenfranchised Grief
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, & Kessler, David (2005) On Grief and Grieving
Neimeyer, Robert A. (2001) Meaning Reconstruction & the Experience of Loss
Worden, J. William (2009) Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy (4th ed.)
Wolfelt, Alan, Understanding your Grief
Hone, Lucy (2017) Resilient Grieving
O’Connor, Mary-Frances (2023) The Grieving Brain
Westberg, Granger E. (1997) Good Grief
Winston, Lolly (2004) Good Grief
Kumar, Sameet K. (2005) Grieving Mindfully
Stang, Heather (2014) Mindfulness and Grief
Kushner, Harold S. ((2001) Living a Life that Matters
Seligman, Martin E. (2006) Learned Optimism
Mitchell, Kenneth R and Anderson, H. (1983) All Out Losses, All Our Grief
Picture Books
I love pictures books for the way pictures and text build on each other to engage readers. Quality picture books present ideas, emotions, and experiences without talking down to readers, no matter how old the readers are. I have a huge collection, so this list will expand. Check back. :-)
Because of a Shoe (2026) by Julie Fogliano follows a mother and child through the experience of stubborn anger (e.g., "I don't want to!). The shift from illustrations in color to black and white and back to color does a marvelous job depicting how our vision narrows when anger takes over.
The Big Orange Splot (1977) by Daniel Pinkwater explores what can happen if you choose to pause and think about what you want rather than doing what was and/or going with what people pressure you to do. Your house can be the house of your dreams rather than “all the same.”
The Book of Mistakes (2017) by Corinna Luyken transforms “mistakes” into new ideas.
Eats, Shoots & Leaves (2006) by Lynn Truss, illustrated by Bonnie Timmons illustrates how the meaning of the same words change when punctuation changes. (Key and Peele's Text Message Confusion (uncensored version) is a great video example of the same idea.)
Henny (2014) by Elizabeth Rose Stanton is a chicken without wings. She has arms and hands. And what can a chicken do with arms and hands? Quite a lot. And she also figures out how to fly.
Hildilid’s Night (1971) by Cheli Durán Ryan, illustrated by Arnold Lobel. Hildilid tries to control what cannot be controlled: the night. She tries in many different ways, including tying it up, putting it in a sack, and spitting at it. And she wears herself out.
Lost and Found (2005) by Oliver Jeffers invites readers on a journey of transformation that starts with an incorrect assumption (Penguin is lost).
They All Saw a Cat (2016) by Brendan Wenzel explores the concept of the lense through which you see the world. The cat is a cat always, but the mouse sees the cat very differently (the cat is a terrifying thing) than the dog than the fish than the boy.
The Shrinking of Treehorn (1971) by Florence Parry Heide highlights the experience of a child trying to be seen in a world of adults creating their own explanations.
Memoirs
Memoirs offer opportunities to see the world from another person's perspective, ways they navigate and make meaning of their life, and how they tell their story.
The Color of Water (1996) by James McBride
Don’t Think Dear: On Loving and Leaving Ballet (2023) by Alice Robb
Educated (2022) by Tara Westover
Hunger (2017) by Roxane Gay
The Only Girl in the World (2014) by Maude Julien
Unquenchable Thirst: A Memoir (2009) by Mary Johnson
An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness (1995) by Kay Redfield Jamison
What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma (2023) by Stephanie Foo
Other Books
Devotions by Mary Oliver
Divinity in Disguise: Nested Meditations to Delight the Mind and Awaken the Soul (2003) by Kevin Anderson
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives (1989) by Pia Mellody
A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix (2017) by Edwin Friedman
Far from the Tree: Parents Children and the Search for Identity (2013) by Andrew Solomon
Learning to Walk in the Dark (2014) by Barbara Brown Taylor
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction (2010) by Gabor Maté
Let Your Life Speak: Listening to the Voice of Vocation (1999) by Parker Palmer. Palmer asks and explores the question, "Is the life I am living the same as the life that wants to live in me?"
On Writing Well: The Classic Guide to Writing Nonfiction by William Zinsser. Learning to write well isn't just helpful when you are in school--or in a writing profession. It's helpful for all sorts of problem solving. Learning to create vivid, clear pictures through words helps us understand and share ourselves.
Scarred by Struggle, Transformed by Hope (2005) by Joan Chittester
Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a Better Relationship (2022) by Terrence Real
Regarding Boys and Men
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (1998) by Terrence Real
The Mask You Live In (2015) a film from The Representation Project
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys (2000) by Daniel Kindlon, PhD, and Michael Thompson, Ph
Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood (1998) by William Pollack, PhD
Guided Meditations
Draw a Picture